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Matthew Chapter 5-6-7: Marriage and A Relationship with God

Posted by adventbiblestudy on October 10, 2011


Jesus’ sermon on the mountain is a list of instructions showing how to maintain a proper marriage relationship between a husband and wife. His sermon also illustrates the type of relationship God offers to His followers.

Mat 5:15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.

Mat 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

A bushel is used for everyday labor. Work can often interfere with the love a marriage could experience. Care needs to be taken so outside influences do not suppress love within the home because marriage is God’s light to the world. It is not easily hid, or meant to be kept behind closed doors. The peace, joy, and happiness of a marriage under God is meant to be shared with the world, as an example of the relationship God desires to share with His people. Let us be glad and rejoice and we will give glory to Him. For the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has prepared herself. (Revelation 19:7 MKJV)

God’s word is a light upon my path of life. Every time I open God’s word, His Spirit leads me to a new and deeper understanding of His love for me, His love for the world. How can I restrain God’s word, or His love. I have to share each with the world. The entrance of Your Words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple. (Psalms 119:130 MKJV)

Matthew 5:19 MKJV Therefore whoever shall relax one of these commandments, the least, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of Heaven. But whoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of Heaven.

God’s law is to be honored in the home, there should be no compromise. One compromise leads to another, each drawing you away from God. Soon the marriage is between only two because God has been ignored, and removed from the relationship. Then two become one, the least in Heaven. Keeping the law draws the entire family to God and Heaven. Therefore you shall lay up these my words in your hearts and in your souls, and bind them for a sign upon your hand, so that they may be as frontlets between your eyes. And you shall teach them to your sons, speaking of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 11:18-19 MKJV

God does not compromise. He does not say, this command is excused for one person, or that law another. God never changes. One sin created chaos in this world where soon every sin was broken, a process that continues today. Thinking, or teaching a sin can be ignored, or forgotten is turning your back on God, and denying His authority. Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever. (Hebrews 13:8 KJV)

Matthew 5:24 KJV Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

Marriage problems can cause a distraction. Solve problems in the home before offering your gift to God. Ministries outside the home can not be neglected, but your performance is much more effective when problems in the home are first resolved in a Christ like manner. Burdens are to be lifted up to God. Trust that God will provide a solution. Place all your burdens upon Jesus. But to every one of us is given grace according to the measure of the gift of Christ. (Ephesians 4:7 MKJV)

God can not accept a gift when ill feelings rule the heart. Forgiveness is the key to drawing closer to God. Forgiveness must first be given and received, afterwards God with honor the cheerful giver. He honors people who have already given all they have to their fellow man. Jesus is our example of forgiveness. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and a contrite heart, O God, You will not despise. (Psalms 51:17 MKJV)

Matthew 5:27-30 MKJV You have heard that it was said to the ancients, “You shall not commit adultery.” (28) But I say to you that whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (29) And if your right eye offends you, pluck it out and throw it from you. For it is profitable for you that one of your members should perish, and not that your whole body should be thrown into hell. (30) And if your right hand offends you, cut it off and throw it from you. For it is profitable for you that one of your members should perish, and not that your whole body should be thrown into hell.

To look at another woman is wrong. It is better to pluck out your eye. To touch another woman is also a sin. It is better to cut off your hand. Do not let the devil tempt you with adultery. Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; he who does it destroys his own soul. (Proverbs 6:32 MKJV)

To look upon any object or mystical power as a god is the worst form of adultery. It is being unfaithful to your relationship with God. Adultery breaks the heart of the innocent party like no other sin is able to accomplish. Spiritual adultery breaks the heart of God. For you shall worship no other god. For Jehovah, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God; Will you steal, murder, and commit adultery, and swear falsely, and burn incense to Baal, and walk after other gods whom you do not know; and then come and stand before Me in this house which is called by My name, and say, We are delivered to do all these abominations? Exodus 34:14-15, Jeremiah 7:9-10 MKJV.

Matthew 5:31-32 MKJV It was also said, Whoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a bill of divorce. (32) But I say to you that whoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery. And whoever shall marry her who is put away commits adultery.

Therefore they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. (Matthew 19:6 MKJV) This is God’s way of saying, He hates divorce. Adultery in the marriage is adultery against God. You can not put away your wife any more than you can put away God. No matter what, the guilty party can never find relief from the guilt and shame of adultery. Leaving the spouse and marrying the partner in adultery does not forgive the sin.

Would God turn His back on a person committing spiritual adultery with objects of greed, habits of lust, or worship given to demons? Forgiveness is only found by returning to God with an honest and open heart. Let your way of life be without the love of money, and be content with such things as you have, for He has said, “Not at all will I leave you, not at all will I forsake you, never!” (Hebrews 13:5 MKJV)

Matthew 5:33-37 KJV Again, ye have heard that it hath been said by them of old time, Thou shalt not forswear thyself, but shalt perform unto the Lord thine oaths: (34) But I say unto you, Swear not at all; neither by heaven; for it is God’s throne: (35) Nor by the earth; for it is his footstool: neither by Jerusalem; for it is the city of the great King. (36) Neither shalt thou swear by thy head, because thou canst not make one hair white or black. (37) But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

Marriage vows are not to be taken lightly. They are a life long commitment made before God, family and friends. Let your yes be forever, do not waiver.

Never waiver with your relationship with God. Stand strong by your commitment, Do not think you were reborn to remain an infant for your entire spiritual life. But grow in grace and in knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To Him be the glory, both now and to the day of eternity. Amen. 2 Peter 3:18 MKJV.

Matthew 5:39 MKJV But I say to you, Do not resist evil. But whoever shall strike you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also.

When your marriage partner hurts you, forgive, immediately and unconditionally. Do not take a minor offense and turn it into a major problem, but let them know when you have been offended before it happens again and becomes a habit. Forgive and resolve matters quickly.

Our relationship with others is an example of our relationship with God. The example we set is a reflection of the impact He has on our lives. So likewise shall My heavenly Father do also to you, unless each one of you from your hearts forgive his brother their trespasses. Matthew 18:35 MKJV.

Matthew 5:40-42 KJV And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also. (41) And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. (42) Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.

Charity begins in the home. Sharing and giving of yourself, time, and all you have begins in the home. If selfish habits are practiced in the marriage, they will manifest themselves throughout your entire life. Give to those you love, develop charitable habits within the family. Let the husband give to the wife proper kindness, and likewise the wife also to the husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband. And likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 MKJV.

The Lord loves a cheerful giver. Share the blessings God has freely given to you. God desires that you give more than what is asked of you. The example you set may not be evident at the time, but may one day find a place in the heart when it begins to soften. And some fell on the good ground and yielded fruit, indeed one a hundredfold, and one sixty, and one thirty. Matthew 13:8 MKJV.

Matthew 5:48 KJV Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.

Is it possible to have the perfect marriage? Is it possible for two people to agree an everything all the time? But Jesus looked on them and said to them, With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible. Matthew 19:26 MKJV.

God desires to have the perfect relationship with you. He is willing to forgive mistakes, as long as the heart repents. Always remember one thing, God tells us, “My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor your ways My ways, says Jehovah. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9 MKJV. God understands the level you are at. He knows your thoughts, and knows how hard you try to be just like HIM.

Matthew 6:14-15 KJV For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: (15) But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

You must always forgive your marriage partner. Never let a matter build up inside. You have to learn to forgive, and ask for forgiveness. If you allow little things to build up, they will reach a point of controlling you. They will eat away with you until you allow them to separate yourself from your partner and from God. You will be on your own doing things you once would have never considered.

Colossians 3:12-14 MKJV (12) Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender feelings of mercy, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long-suffering, (13) forbearing one another and forgiving yourselves, if anyone has a complaint against any. As Christ forgave you, so also you do. (14) And above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfectness.

Jesus died for the sins of the world, and offers forgiveness to all who call upon His name. Following His example, God wants people to forgive one another. What happens when you do not forgive? The Spirit will try and convict you of your sins. Satan will try to convince you they were justified. A battle begins to war inside of you. If you give into Satan, he convinces you the conviction is caused by the one you hurt, so you try to hurt them more in an attempt to make the pain will go away. It increases with every effort. Forgiveness is the only remedy. For You, Lord, are good and ready to forgive, and rich in mercy to all those who call on You. Psalms 86:5 MKJV.

Matthew 6:19-21 KJV Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: (20) But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: (21) For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

This is an important part of a successful marriage. Never allow the desire of material things to over power love. Love is a gift from Heaven. Displaying the love of a marriage to others can play a role in leading others to Christ. It is an illustration of our relationship with God. Be mindful of things above, not on things on the earth. For you died, and your life has been hidden with Christ in God. When Christ our Life is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory. (Colossians 3:2-4 MKJV)

The most important treasure in Heaven is you, your family, and all those God has put in your path to plant His seeds. Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And everything, whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by Him. (Colossians 3:16-17 MKJV)

Matthew 6:28-30 KJV And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: (29) And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. (30) Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?

The robe of salvation and garments of righteousness are gifts from Christ. They are the clothing of Heaven. Like salvation God cloths the field in a manner no man can duplicate or imitate. Salvation is an attraction everyone can see, but only understood when given time to appreciate. I will greatly rejoice in Jehovah, my soul will be joyful in my God; for He has clothed me with the robes of salvation, He covered me with the robe of righteousness like a bridegroom adorns himself with ornaments, and like a bride adorns herself with her jewels. (Isaiah 61:10 MKJV) There is no other source of salvation outside of a relationship with Jesus.

Matthew 7:1-2 KJV Judge not, that ye be not judged. (2) For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

Never judge one another in a marriage. Judgment breeds envy, mistrust, and in the end hatred. Judge not, but take your concerns to God in prayer. Ask Jesus to judge your disagreements. Pray on them together. Put them away for a time and wait for the Sprit to work. Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as is becoming in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them. Colossians 3:18-19 MKJV.

God does not want to judge you, He wants to forgive you, and take you home. Judging others is like trying to take God’s place. You will never understand the standards God uses to judge while you are here on earth. We can not judge God’s standards based on those we experience in this life. But why do you judge your brother? Or also why do you despise your brother? For all shall stand before the judgment seat of Christ. For it is written, “As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to Me, and every tongue shall confess to God.” So then each one of us will give account concerning himself to God. Then let us not judge one another any more, but rather judge this, not to put a stumbling-block or an offense toward his brother. (Romans 14:10-13 MKJV)

Matthew 7:3-5 KJV And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? (4) Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? (5) Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.

Neither partner in a marriage is perfect. Both need God’s help to maintain a proper relationship. Both have to understand, the other is not perfect. Pray for Jesus to change you and He will see to your needs. And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which you also are called in one body, and be thankful. Colossians 3:15 MKJV.

Only Jesus knows how to change lives. What needs to change, how, when to change it and when you are ready to apply the lesson to your life. In your relationship with Jesus, pray that He will change your life, and open your eyes to the things you need to change, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might by His Spirit in the inner man; that Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth and length and depth and height, and to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge, that you might be filled with all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:16-19 MKJV)

Matthew 7:7-8 KJV Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: (8) For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.

God is more than willing to give you wisdom and love to make a marriage grow and flourish, to change a willing heart into a loving heart, to bind two people together in a loving relationship with Jesus as the head. But that you, speaking the truth in love, may in all things grow up to Him who is the Head, even Christ; (Ephesians 4:15 MKJV)

What God really wants is an open and honest relationship with you. To give and receive love. An open heart willing to learn and give. Someone God can shape into His perfect image of love and understanding. Jehovah has appeared to me from afar, saying, Yea, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with loving-kindness I have drawn you. (Jeremiah 31:3 MKJV)

Mat 7:11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?

Our love will never be enough, we need to pray for Jesus’ love to flow through us to our partners. With Jesus as the head of the household, every need will be met, ever problem will fade away, peace and joy will fill the home. Love will abound to overflowing. Father, I desire that those whom You have given Me, that they may be with Me where I am, that they may behold My glory which You have given Me, for You have loved Me before the foundation of the world. (John 17:24 MKJV)

Jesus offers the best gifts of all, salvation, everlasting life, and infinite love. Ask HIM. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many. And I give to them eternal life, and they shall never ever perish, and not anyone shall pluck them out of My hand. (Mark 10:45 MKJV. John 10:28 MKJV)

Mat 7:24 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock:

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